I know how it is. You have a specific dream that you want to happen. Maybe you want to go back to school, write a book, start a business, etc. You feel, no, you KNOW that you were destined to do this great thing. But then…life happens. You end up working a job you don’t really like just to pay the bills, maybe get in a relationship, get married, have kids, then wonder where the time went and how in the world you forgot about your dreams? But..I have good news! The amazing thing about dreams is that they don’t die until we do. So if you’re still alive, that’s all the evidence you need to know that you still have the potential to see your dreams through. However..it’s not going to be easy. Evaluate if this dream is truly YOURS and something that you want for all of the right reasons. Not your parents dream, not a dream you want to make money for no particular reason, and most importantly not a dream that you’re not completely passionate about. This makes it much easier to jump over hurdles and challenges because you realize that everything works for the grater good.
So how do you get started on this dream and tackle your most ambitious goals?
1. Write Them Down
A dream is just a dream until it is written on paper. THEN it becomes a plan. You’ll be surprised how many creative thoughts and extensions of your dreams can come to you if you would just write them down. This is the first step to making your dreams come to life. Please note, when I say write it down I mean on actual pen and paper. Not on the notebook in your phone, or shouting to all of social media that you have this amazing dream. No. Studies show that there is more of an emotional connection when writing goals down on paper, rater than typing them up. Keep it to yourself at this point, because it is just beginning.
2. Write Each Step it Will Take To Get There
This helps you to see how much work you really have to do and how much of it was not as serious as you may have thought it was. You might even realize that some of the groundwork has already been completed (God’s just good like that). Writing down the steps it will take to get there help you to write clear and measurable goals. Be realistic with yourself. Don’t set a year goal for something you know will take a full year to even get started. I like to right down 3-4 major (or even small goals) then break them down by the year, then month, then week, and sometimes even to the day. Of course life isn’t perfect and everything doesn’t go as planned. But setting a deadline and clearly outlining what needs to be done instead of just dreaming about it helps tremendously.
3. Be Kind To Yourself
This is the part that I personally struggle with the most. However, I must say that I am truly getting better at it. When you’re not kind to yourself it doesn’t help you push further. In fact, it pushes you a few steps back from obtaining your goals. If you are working towards a dream, realize that you are already leaps and bounds ahead of many. People usually do not even get this far. Breathe. Relax. Have faith in yourself and your goals. Respect them. Because when you learn to respect your goals you learn to respect the process. The process is hard, yes. But it doesn’t make it impossible, it’s to test you and see just how bad you want it!
4. Utilize Your Resources
When you realize what goal you want to reach you;ll soon realize that you have enough to get started. Stop wasting time for bigger and better to come and work with what you have now, today! These days we have virtually no excuse for not reaching our most ambitious goals (have you ever heard of Google and/or social media?) Pretty much every answer you may have you can find the question to there. Network your ass off on social media! Stop expecting things that you want so bad to just fall in your lap. Figure out a game plan, and see what and who you have around you that will be able to help you reach your goals.
5. Stop Being Lazy
If you want it..you’ll work for it. Period! Don’t make excuses for getting what you want to get done, done. Your goals don’t care if you’re tired. Work anyway! Working out has really helped me with this principal. It’s important for me to have a healthy body (even though I’m not all the way there yet) and 99% of the time I do not ‘feel’ like going to the gym. But I do know if I don’t go that I will just gain weight (get further away from my goals). I’m not lazy about my fitness goals and I refuse to be lazy about my personal goals. Make time to work towards them, no matter how small your efforts may seem. Because one day, everything is going to come together.
Hope this article really helps you and that it has reached you in amazing spirits. Now go ahead and conquer your most ambitious goals!